Experience – Befriending

Befriending… and Starbucks

Befriending is a vital service used to help people to take the first steps towards meeting new people, rediscovering old hobbies and developing new interests. It helped me a great deal by working on combating my sense of isolation, anxiety and other combined mental health issues. It worked on my self-esteem and gave me more opportunities for social interaction. Time was spent to match me up with someone with similar interests and we then discovered we both like genealogy, camper vans and cloud spotting! Overall she is pretty cool, nothing was too much trouble. I would thoroughly recommend the experience, because it restored my faith in humanity, and also gave me an excuse to go to Starbucks!

Provided May 2015

Tags: Anxiety, Befriending, Isolation and Loneliness
01/06/2015 at 2:20 pm

Support, care, patience and understanding

I just wanted to say how grateful I am for all the support, care, patience and understanding you have given to me over the last 2 years and recently for getting me help from John Niblo (Welfare Officer). When the Befriending Worker first visited me I was so close to doing something stupid leaving everything behind giving up and letting these feelings of doom and fear beat me, but through time with support from FDAMH slowly I’ve improved and recently as you know I tried to get myself back to work, but failed miserably – this was a big setback but I’m trying to look at it from the positive side. I’m trying hard not to lock myself away in this house and become isolated again. I can cope better with my problems but I now need to understand and ACCEPT that this is me, this is the way I am instead of trying to turn myself into someone I’m not. We are all different and I should not try to hide my illness and let the stigma dictate affect how I live my life and deal with it without embarrassment as its no different from any other illness. I will continue to try hard, my aim in the next few months is to try and find some suitable volunteer work that I will enjoy and regain some confidence and self esteem, thanks again, I am so grateful.

Provided June 2014

Tags: Befriending
09/12/2014 at 1:25 pm

I feel better about myself

Having a befriender has made me feel like there are people out there who will help people in my situation.
I feel better about myself, have started to eat better, started to take a pride in my appearance again. I can stay in on my own, it doesn’t bother me so much now.

I still feel sometimes feel like I could do with someone to talk to. I have a friend down the road who asks me to help her out now and again. I feel good that I can help other people now.

I think befriending is a great idea for someone like me who lost parents they were close to. I’ve enjoyed the time out and if I could become a befriender and help someone else, I would.

Provided June 2014

Tags: Befriending, Isolation and Loneliness
09/12/2014 at 1:07 pm

I haven’t looked back

I would like to say a few words on the way the Befriending scheme helped me.

My befriender helped me quite a lot. She was a very nice lady to meet; very supportive, helpful and very nice to talk to. She was very good at getting me out and back into the community again, meeting people and going swimming etc, etc.

It doesn’t seem like a year already since I first met my befriender at FDAMH in Falkirk. My befriender has done a great job, to the highest standards and got me back out into the community. And I haven’t looked back since my befriender has moved on to someone new who has been on the befriending scheme waiting list.

I would like to say a big thank you to FDAMH, for their help, support, advice over the years while I have been attending. Once again thank you for everything. Keep up the good work.

Provided: June 2014

Tags: Befriending
09/12/2014 at 1:01 pm

Befriending helping to relieve the difficulties of agoraphobia

The reason I was given a befriender was because I had problems going out on my own as I was mugged. I suffer from agoraphobia.

My doctor sent me for therapy and my therapist recommended FDAMH to me for a befriender.
It has worked out really well. We meet one day every two weeks and she has been really great. Even now that the befriending has come to an end we have decided to keep meeting as we have a good time together.

I would like to thank FDAMH for their help as it gets me out.

Tags: Anxiety, Befriending, Isolation and Loneliness
09/12/2014 at 12:43 pm

Pushing past anxiety to reap the benefits of befriending

Having had anxiety for a long time, meeting people and going places has always been a struggle. So when having a befriender was mentioned, the same anxious feelings of fear and worry which usually made me put off doing things were there as always.

I’m glad to say I did push through my anxiety and met my befriender who was so easy going that it made me question what all my worrying was for. I realised had I not met him it would have been a big mistake as I would have missed out on many positive experiences, like having something to look forward to each week or learning to play squash which I would never have done or just being able to talk about anxiety and depression with someone who understands just in the same kind of way we chat about everyday things like movies or what happened during our week.

Thinking about my anxiety and negative thinking I had before meeting my befriender and then seeing through time how it changed to the point of looking forward to the meetings. It gives me hope that if my thoughts and anxiety can change with that, hopefully they can be changed with other aspects of my life.

Received: February 2014

Tags: Anxiety, Befriending, Depression
26/05/2014 at 7:36 pm