Counselling – through commitment and trust to new self-belief and a better future
It was suggested to me that I should attend FDAMH for some support. I didn’t know anything about the organisation and I didn’t know anything about counselling. I didn’t want to come into the building. I was very nervous, scared and everything negative I could think of. I didn’t know what I was letting myself in for and in the beginning I felt scared of my Counsellor because I thought she was the adult and I was the child.
I thought my counsellor would have given up on me because of my silence each week. At times it felt like torture but I always hoped next week would be a better week so I stuck with it. As the weeks went by being able to open up to my Counsellor helped me to believe in myself. I started to see things differently and for the first time in my life I felt I could trust someone. I learned that I could make my own choices in life and didn’t have to rely on other people to make them for me.
I now feel hopeful about life. I am about to start my first job and I feel determined to move on.
Provided April 2015
01/06/2015 at 2:24 pm
Darkness to Light
I’m sorry I hastily call you friends when I don’t know you. Fellow suffers is not what I am either, so if I met you I’m sure we would be friends. Let me tell you about my journey in FDAMH.
When I first was asked by my doctor to go and get counselling, I said no way, I was scared, I was a failure and a nut job. In the end I finally agreed. “Deary me , what was I doing”.
However I came, a 70 year old woman. Anxious, nervous and downright afraid.
However when I got to FDAMH the first person I met was the girl at the desk, what a nice smile, I got taken to the waiting room after I signed in.
At first when I met my counsellor I thought nice girl but I don’t think I’ll be able to talk much to her. I was so wrong, she made me feel at ease by gently asking me a little about myself. That done as the weeks went by I started to feel better about myself. At first I always blamed me for what went on, but as the weeks went on in honesty and truth made me realise that I am not to blame for other people, we are all responsible for our own self as everyone is responsible for their self.
So to finish I do not blame myself for anyone else’s badness or down right wickedness. I now know what has happened to me was and is not my fault. Darkness to Light, that is what I got from my counsellor and FDAMH.
Remember be honest and open. Without it there would be nothing at the end. I am happier now that I know I’m not to blame, so good luck on your journey my friends.
Provided: November 2014
09/12/2014 at 12:39 pm
Being a counselling volunteer
Over the last year I have had a very good experience at FDAMH. The clinical work is excellent and I have seen a wide range of clients in terms of age, gender and presenting issues. The referral procedure works well and Liz offers excellent mentoring and line management. She is organised and supportive and always gives me time when I need it. Liz has organised some excellent training opportunities from which I have learned a lot about for when working with clients.
Tags: Counselling, Volunteering
27/11/2013 at 6:22 pm
Client feedback on the Counselling Service in 2012/13
Each paragraph below is a different voice revealing what people said to us about the counselling service after completing their sessions.
“It’s been a lifeline. Would not have coped without it – still struggling, will probably be back. Very good.”
“I have been really pleased with my counselling, just having someone to talk too, I really don’t speak a lot about my mental Health and it has helped me by trying to find out about my illness. Counselling service provided was excellent, my Counsellor was great and really helped me.”
“Very pleased with the one-to-one sessions. Very satisfied with the counselling. I found it welcoming and friendly. And it helped me, my counsellor was very understanding. Thanks”
“I thought the first counsellor I was assigned to was not well suited to me, however after raising this with the co-ordinator, I was assigned someone else reasonably quickly which was very beneficial.”
“It has helped me look at things in a different light.”
“I never knew my counselling would help me as much as it has, by helping me looking at the things I was struggling with, I can manage my life better by looking at the bigger picture, I learnt -I was normal. Just dealt with things wrong.”
“Full course and counsellor were exceptional”
“My counsellor was patient, kind and gave me a great insight into ‘me’ helped my confidence and self esteem greatly”
“Useful, took so much from the service, helped me to understand not just myself but others, helped me to link the present with events of the past.”
“The counselling I received was excellent and very inspiring to me. Thank you so much”
“(1.) A bit more information on the type of counselling that would be received. (2.) Expected some homework./Something to work on at home.”
“I had an excellent counsellor who listened and understood.”
“Counselling has been one of the best undertakings of my life. My counsellor was fantastic. A weight has lifted. Thank you!”
“I feel grateful that someone was listening to me without judging me”
“My counsellor has been very helpful, understanding and welcoming.”
“I am very pleased, at the moment I feel a lot better, it was good to talk to my counsellor and having support, I needed thank you very much.”
“(I was) made to feel at ease and welcome.”
“I was unsure if this would work for me – it was a fantastic resource. I was able to talk freely and to consider my feelings in a non-biased atmosphere. It allowed me to open new beginnings and leave the past behind. A big thank you to my counsellor.”
“My counsellor made me feel important from day one and has made a huge difference on my outlook on life – gratefully appreciated”
“Very relaxed setting, I felt I was able to cover any topic I wished.”
“Was a nice feeling not to be judged.”
27/11/2013 at 6:15 pm
Volunteering with the Counselling Service
I have been a volunteer with FDAMH’s counselling service for over three years and during these three years there has not been a day that I have not looked forward to the challenges and rewards working at the centre brings. I experience working within the service as a boundaried and safe place which is nurturing and supportive and respectful of clients and counsellors alike. I value having ready access to the formal support that is afforded by the co-ordinator and FDAMH’s wider administrative team. Participating in the training evenings has been a welcomed opportunity to linking up with fellow counsellors as well as enhancing my learning.
The counselling service provides an invaluable resource to local people particularly at a time of major cut backs and the lengthy waiting time to access other mental health supports. The recent expansion of the Fast Track project is a welcome addition complimenting the core service.
Tags: Counselling, Volunteering
26/11/2013 at 9:25 pm
Varied work and great support for trainee counsellors
The following is a little bit about my experience as a FDAMH volunteer trainee Psychotherapist.
I have had a wide range of clients coming from various backgrounds both male and female, who vary in age. The majority of my clients have been middle aged although I have had some younger and older clients also.
I feel the clients have been reasonably well matched to my current ability and level of expertise. I feel Liz takes time to find out how I am progressing through my training and if I feel competent with the type of client’s I have referred to me. I am very happy with the level of support our counselling coordinator, Liz, gives. She is extremely helpful and offers support around client work. I feel able to share my concerns and success with Liz, I feel she takes me seriously and offers good practical advice and support. I don’t feel pressure to get everything right, she displays a lot of compassion and caring. In my opinion she models a good ethical working style ensuring our clients get the best possible service and I as the therapist take care of my needs also.
The training I have attended, in my opinion, has been of a very high standard and well organised. The training events are well publicised and I am made to feel more than welcome to attend. The one I most enjoyed was the workshop about self-harming, I feel I gained a lot of understanding about the process a person who self-harms goes through and how to work with that type of client.
My experience at FDAMH has been enjoyable, the staff are friendly, there is a good atmosphere within the building, the reception seems to work well. I like the open door policy, I feel able to approach other members of staff, the place seems to run well with lots of opportunities for staff members and the general public. Overall I have a very high opinion of the work and service we all provide as an organisation.
Tags: Counselling, Students at FDAMH, Volunteering
26/11/2013 at 9:23 pm