Experience – FDAMH Training

Learning a different approach with Mindfulness training for Carers

This has simply been the best course I have been part of for many years. I am already embracing many of the aspects of it, and am benefiting from this on a daily basis. It is an enriching experience which I would highly recommend.

I have always been interested in and appreciated the benefits of meditation, but always found great difficulty in applying myself. This course has provided me with the tools to ‘find a way into it’ and fully embrace it — Thanks, Louise. I mention the trainer, Louise, as I do think for me that was a significant element. Louise has a manner of delivery that certainly enhances the experience and made the whole process very accessible, and also (always a plus) very enjoyable.

I am already enjoying the difference in my approach to the little difficulties that crop up in everyday life. For people experiencing trauma & more serious difficulties I believe it would be invaluable. I would highly recommend this course.

Tags: Carers and Family Support, FDAMH Training
30/01/2015 at 12:35 pm



Finding a more positive way thank to FDAMH’s Mindfulness Course for Carers

I have been on a mindfulness course for the past 8 weeks. I have found it very interesting and helpful. It has taught me simple techniques of meditation and how to control my feelings and thoughts. At the beginning of the course my mood was extremely low and I could get very angry and agitated very easily. I can now take time for myself and not feel guilty and I can also control my thoughts and feelings in a much more positive way. The whole group were very nice and open with each other, there was no judgement or embarrassment. All in all I have come away from the course very positive which is a good thing.

Tags: Carers and Family Support, FDAMH Training
30/01/2015 at 12:32 pm



Anxiety Management Course

FDAMH’s Anxiety Management Course runs over a number of weeks, taking an holistic approach and offering a wide selection of techniques to help people identify what works best for them.

A student says:
“I have thoroughly enjoyed the course. I found it extremely helpful and enjoyed the relaxing atmosphere. We were given plenty of information to take with us and look back on. The mindfulness and the alternative therapies classes were extremely informative and relaxing. My only criticism is that I felt the course was not long enough and I would have benefited from having it extended.”

2013

Tags: Anxiety, FDAMH Training, Link Service
27/11/2013 at 6:17 pm



A recovery journey with FDAMH

I was recently asked this question what does FDAMH mean to you my answer is so totally simple – everything.

Several years ago I was made redundant after serving 40 years in various junior and senior management positions. The effect this had on my life was indescribable I just went into total emotional melt down, I spent the first two years isolating myself in my own home not wanting to speak or see anyone, I never even went beyond my front own door. I could never put into words how black life felt for me at that time.

I was eventually persuaded by my family to see my local GP, he in turn referred me to my local hospital psychiatric department for treatment and after receiving over two years of intense counselling I slowly started to get my life back together. It was decided by the hospital consultants it was time for me to try to get back into a more out door social environment.

My hospital consultant made contact for me with a local help centre called FDAHM this was the first time in more than 4 years I had ventured out into the public domain. On my first day I was welcomed with open arms by the very friendly staff and volunteer members at the FDAHM centre they were so good to me. I was very gently introduced to other members of the drop in group.

One of the first things I noticed about the FDAMH centre and at that time it was so very important to me was I was never made to feel I had to stay there or partake in any group activities. It was so important and reassuring to me at that time knowing that I could come and go and join in as and when I pleased. After the first few weeks of attending the day centre and mainly due to the kind and understanding staff members I slowly started to get my confidence back and started joining in with the many group activities spending a little longer with each time I was there.

After attending the day centre for a short while I asked a member of staff would it be possible for me to receive one to one counselling has I was still finding it hard to deal with my worries and feelings of anxiety and panic attacks. Over a two years period at the FDAHM centre I received two twelve weekly therapy sessions, each of these sessions were of a tremendous help to me giving me both the strength expand my new found confidence and also helping me to feel that I could go on to put my past broken life back on track.

I have always felt even from my early days at the day centre how can I help to repay their kindness. I owe so much to FDAMH and its fabulous full time and most generous volunteering staff, for with their help and understanding they have helped me to turn my life around.

Last year I was asked at the centre if I would like to consider taking part in a short volunteer training course at the centre, I said that I would be very happy to attend. I was thinking that maybe this could be a way of not only helping myself getting back some of my own self-belief but I could also in some little way give help and support to the other day centre drop in group members.I completed this excellent training course which I found to be most interesting and informative.

I have now for several months been running a weekly family history and genealogy group within FDAMH. The members of my group love talking about the old times, it’s a great way to get them communicating to each other, they also love finding old family photos and genealogical records and sharing family history details with each other. I have also found that my family research group is a great way to getting older group members interested in using computers some for the first time, they may find it slow going at first, put are quickly delighted when they find some interesting family details via the Google search engine system.

FDAMH thank you so much for helping me to find my own self confidence and self-belief.

2013

Tags: Activity Groups, Anxiety, Counselling, Drop-In, FDAMH Training, Isolation and Loneliness, Panic, Volunteering
26/11/2013 at 9:12 pm



My life is different because of the Link Service

After I left hospital and the Mental Health Home Team had finished visiting me I was left, possibly no worse, but certainly no better than I had been when I entered the hospital. Isolated and alone I felt no hope, only despair. I was no better equipped to deal with the outside world than I had been.

Fortunately I had been referred to a psychologist who in turn referred me to FDAMH. There I spoke to Jane, who treated me with such insight, compassion and understanding that I found the strength to attempt to rebuild my life.

I was encouraged to join the Link Service where I attended a course on anxiety and depression. There I began to understand not only what was happening with me, but more importantly for me, that I wasn’t alone. I met people, people just like me experiencing the same debilitating fears and difficulties.

From there I was given the opportunity to join the Next Steps Programme where Marguerite with her tremendous energy and enthusiasm for life made me see that there is a world out there to discover and enjoy and opportunities to be had.

Early on Jane told me that things would never be the same for me. My life would be different. I would be different. Which didn’t mean that things had to be worse they could even be better. A concept I treated with scepticism. Now I understand exactly what Jane was saying. My life is different, I am different. A whole new world has opened up for me. A world I am thankful to be part of and which grows wider and more rewarding with each passing day.

Without FDAMH and the Link Service I have no idea where I’d be today or even if I would be. Through the contact and the opportunities offered to me I am now rebuilding my life not only within FDAMH but outwith, re-establishing contact with friends and family, no longer isolating myself. This new found confidence has enabled me to become involved in volunteering within FDAMH and with each day I find my ability to enjoy and participate in life increasing.

2013

Tags: Anxiety, FDAMH Training, Isolation and Loneliness, Link Service, Next Steps Course
26/11/2013 at 8:42 pm



The carer’s role can be very demanding, but FDAMH can help

As with many ‘new’ experiences in life, I was a little doubtful about attending the course. What would it be like? Who else would be there? Would I know anyone and have my ‘cover’ blown? Is this going to help? Will anything help? Truth is I was scared.

I had been looking for help and support for about three years since a relative became deeply depressed. Among my circle of good friends, family and colleagues I had found much support and many willing ears but I was now at the stage where, after this time, I was fed up hearing my ‘moans’ so goodness knows what my listeners felt.

I was taking anti-depressants where before I tried not to take even a headache tablet. I was tearful, exhausted and felt isolated. I was becoming less effective at work and didn’t want to socialise or do ‘normal’ things. My relative refused to follow medical advice and did and said things which I thought were illogical. He told me he felt no-one could be trusted. All this and many more things convinced me that unless I found help for him the situation would not improve. I was wearing myself out and becoming increasingly resentful, confused and frustrated. I also felt very guilty that I could do nothing to help him.

One day, determined to ask for advice for him, I called into FDAMH. This was a last ditch attempt as far as I was concerned. I needed someone to help him and these folk were specialists in mental health so what had I to lose? After I explained what had happened, they were telling me about carers’ support. Despite many people over a long period of time telling me I needed to get support for me and look after myself, my focus had been on helping my relative. Now here was a man telling me that there was an education course that might help me. Starting next week!

Suddenly I realised that the change I had been struggling to bring about might be a change in my thinking and behaviour rather than a change in that of my relative. I had spent the best part of three years lurching from one day to the next so what difference was 7 weeks going to make? At worse it would be a chance to have 2 hours out of the house one evening a week; at best it might just help. I laid aside my scepticism and went along!

The facilitators immediately put people at ease. We were all in similar positions, living with other peoples’ mental health issues. It was apparent that nobody would be giving unsolicited advice and as the weeks went on, it became easier to talk and ask for information. There was a wonderful feeling of being supported and being able to identify with others.

I found the discussions and resources an excellent source of information but, best of all, it made me think about my feelings and actions and reflect on how these were impacting on the way I regarded my relative. Midway through the course, things started to fall into place for me. During a session about feelings and behaviours we received a handout. On it I read a list of behaviours which may be displayed by people under stress. Every one of these jumped off the page at me. This was exactly how my relative behaved. Suddenly I saw him as a person who was experiencing frustration and confusion, anger and isolation. People are telling him things from their point of view and giving him advice about what they feel is best for him. No wonder he feels that he has lost control of his life.

I realise that by looking at things from his perspective, I am more calm and patient. All the things that infuriated me so much have become less important. How do I feel when people tell me what I should be doing; resentful, stubborn, huff for Scotland? My possible reactions can give me a small insight into his feelings. But also now I listen to him without judging. I accept when he tells me how he is feeling or what his opinion is. I don’t have to agree but nor do I have to dismiss these feelings and opinions. They are his and he is entitled to hold them.

OK, I have not become carer of the year! I am still frustrated, confused and resentful at times — I am human. But what the sessions in the carers’ course have helped me with is to take a deep breath, put my brain in gear before opening my mouth and most of all, not to feel guilty. I am doing my best but when that is not enough, there are people at FDAMH who will listen to me.

Tags: Carers and Family Support, FDAMH Training
25/11/2013 at 7:07 pm