Experience – Isolation and Loneliness

Befriending… and Starbucks

Befriending is a vital service used to help people to take the first steps towards meeting new people, rediscovering old hobbies and developing new interests. It helped me a great deal by working on combating my sense of isolation, anxiety and other combined mental health issues. It worked on my self-esteem and gave me more opportunities for social interaction. Time was spent to match me up with someone with similar interests and we then discovered we both like genealogy, camper vans and cloud spotting! Overall she is pretty cool, nothing was too much trouble. I would thoroughly recommend the experience, because it restored my faith in humanity, and also gave me an excuse to go to Starbucks!

Provided May 2015

Tags: Anxiety, Befriending, Isolation and Loneliness
01/06/2015 at 2:20 pm


I feel better about myself

Having a befriender has made me feel like there are people out there who will help people in my situation.
I feel better about myself, have started to eat better, started to take a pride in my appearance again. I can stay in on my own, it doesn’t bother me so much now.

I still feel sometimes feel like I could do with someone to talk to. I have a friend down the road who asks me to help her out now and again. I feel good that I can help other people now.

I think befriending is a great idea for someone like me who lost parents they were close to. I’ve enjoyed the time out and if I could become a befriender and help someone else, I would.

Provided June 2014

Tags: Befriending, Isolation and Loneliness
09/12/2014 at 1:07 pm


Making Margaret proud

Do you know, I would never have known that Callendar House was there unless Arthur (my Befriender) had opened my eyes to it. He’s showing me so many things that I never knew were out there and all free too. The Helix is wonderful and I’ve been back myself after Arthur took me.

I think you made a wonderful match there. He’s such a great guy and easy to talk to, funny, a lot in common with me. I really like him and I’m so pleased you picked him to work with me. Thanks so much. I already feel he’s beginning to work, I’ve found it easier to stay off the big binges (drinking) and I do look forward to seeing him, so it gives me a focus. I do think about Margaret a lot, still, but instead of thinking that she would be ashamed of me, I think ” Oh Margaret would have enjoyed it here” or “Margaret would have liked walking here” when I’m out at places with Arthur. I think Margaret would be proud of me, at what I’m doing. This is a great project, I had no idea something like this would help, it would help so many people.

Provided August 2014

Tags: Isolation and Loneliness, Third Age Befriending
09/12/2014 at 12:51 pm


Befriending helping to relieve the difficulties of agoraphobia

The reason I was given a befriender was because I had problems going out on my own as I was mugged. I suffer from agoraphobia.

My doctor sent me for therapy and my therapist recommended FDAMH to me for a befriender.
It has worked out really well. We meet one day every two weeks and she has been really great. Even now that the befriending has come to an end we have decided to keep meeting as we have a good time together.

I would like to thank FDAMH for their help as it gets me out.

Tags: Anxiety, Befriending, Isolation and Loneliness
09/12/2014 at 12:43 pm


Befriending helps to rebuild enthusiasm for life

I am 44 and suffer from Bi-Polar and IBS and so had gradually withdrawn myself away from society.

My befriender has given my confidence a tremendous boost and I now get out more. Certainly the more I stayed in, the fear of going out increased.

We have a lot in common and get on really well. I am so glad my CPN, Grace Watson from Westbank, encouraged me to be considered for befriending.

I have had my befriender for a year and have really enjoyed my time with her and feel my mood and general enthusiasm for life have improved.

I’d recommend befriending to anyone who, like me, had become pretty isolated.

Received: February 2014

Tags: Anxiety, Befriending, Bipolar Disorder, Isolation and Loneliness
26/05/2014 at 7:24 pm


Projects helping to provide much needed respite for families

After years of suffering enduring mental Heath problems my Dad was referred to FDAMH over a year ago with a hope to be granted a befriender. Within a few months he received a letter from Stuart to say he would visit him at home with a colleague. I met with Stuart at my dad’s on this date and we discussed my dad’s needs ensuring he was given choices at every step of the way. Stuart spoke about the service FDAMH provide and through talking, my Dad agreed to join one of the social groups within the service. Since this time my dad has faithfully attended the group which he really enjoys.This enables him to interact with others with the same problems and also gives him something to look forward too.My dad was then introduced to his befriender who he meets up with once a fortnight.My dad has shared he enjoys the one-to-one interaction. As a carer to my dad for the last 30 years I feel FDAMH has given me some respite and has encouraged my dad to have a purpose in life.

On behalf of myself and my dad I can’t thank you enough.

Provided: April 2014

Tags: Befriending, Drop-In, Isolation and Loneliness
26/05/2014 at 7:11 pm