Experience – Third Age Befriending

The time my befriender gives me means such a lot

We went to Matalan, which is the first time I’ve been to the shops in 6 months. Even before, it was straight to the shops, get what you need and back out again. But with my befriender I can take my time and look at stuff, try stuff on, talk, just look at the stuff and have a laugh. Be normal.

I really enjoy her company. I really do. You name it, we talk about it. It’s like I’ve known her for so long. I’ve really taken to her. She helps calm me. I can get rid of a lot that plays on my mind, worries me and I don’t realise I’m doing it (worrying). She’s helping me cope with my illness 100%, just by taking my mind off it. Just having someone who can sit and talk, it helps. For the time she gives me, it means such a lot.

It doesn’t feel like she was ever a stranger. She’s down to earth and homely. Just a lovely homely girl, you know, just makes you feel right at home.She talks to me too, about her busy life and hearing about someone else’s life makes me remember that I’m the same as everybody else. I’d like to think I can help her too. And she brings me my special sweeties, every week. Angel.

Thank you so much, I feel better and I thoroughly enjoy seeing my befriender.

(This person was benefiting from a befriender through the Third Age Befriending project)

2013

Tags: Isolation and Loneliness, Third Age Befriending
25/11/2013 at 6:44 pm


The best bit is blethering!

My befriender and I go walking. We started round the garden, then the street and we go a little further every week. I didn’t go out before. The best bit of the meetings is our blethering, having a laugh. I like our conversations, I look forward to her coming and feel a bit brighter afterwards. I want to concentrate on my physical strength before thinking about groups and clubs. I still have bad days, about 1 in 7, but that’s better than before.

Tags: Isolation and Loneliness, Third Age Befriending
25/11/2013 at 6:39 pm


Third Age Befriending, a partner’s perspective

Loved ones can often see and benefit from the improvements our projects bring to the people using them, this is feedback from the partner of someone using the Third Age Befriending project:

“I have noticed a real difference in her. She really brightens up when she sees (her befriender) and she’s brighter after she’s been, for some time. I can see chinks of the benefits of befriending showing. (Her befriender) is a nice person and someone you can warm to. I think her input has made a difference to her. I do think she is happier.”

Tags: Third Age Befriending
25/11/2013 at 6:29 pm